| David Gane

A little easier every day

Yesterday was the first time I've shown up to my workout without completely hating it.

I believe a couple of things have influenced this change in attitude.

1) Not...yet

At the start of October, I shared a Reddit story of a guy who talked about his sixteen year progression from an average scrawny 12 year old into a lean and strong 28 year old.

He says at one point:

Just because you don't have something now... doesn't mean you won't ever have it.

That stuck with me and I wrote up a version and pinned it on my corkboard.

Just because you can't yet, doesn't mean you won't later.

I've stared at this phrase over the past few weeks and now when I struggle with a hard lift or can't get that last rep, it flashes in my head and I let go of my short term failure.

I remind myself this isn't about the week, the month, or the year. It's about a way of being for the rest of my life.

2) Failure as growth

On top of this idea of failure, I've heard both sides of this argument online. Some say we should embrace failure, while others argue that this notion is overrated.

But Oliver Burkeman framed the idea of failure in interesting terms. He says that we must understand failure as an option and that if we truly fail, it means that we've reached the limit of our abilities and resources.

So when I get bummed out that I didn't get all my reps or failed to move my heaviest set, I don't hold onto it because I know I'll give it another try it in a couple of days.

3) Motivation

Finally, there is the idea of being in the right mood or certain frame of mind.

Now, I've been writing for a while and can show up at the page whether I'm inspired or not—or if I even have a clue what I plan to put on the page beforehand (case in point: this post).

Similarly, during the summer, I had no trouble putting my running shoes on and heading out on the path, whether or not I was in the mood.

However, I haven't been listening to my own advice when it came to my weight exercises. I would catch myself asking myself whether I was in the mood or not—and often convince myself I'd do it another day, when I wasn't so tired, so late, so sore, etc...

It wasn't until I was listening to Burkeman that I realized my own BS.

Mood, emotion, feelings are all things I can't control, but the only thing I can control is my response to them.

I can't wait around to get motivated. I need to just do it. This means getting into my workout clothes, head downstairs, and start exercising.

Granted, sometimes I don't ever feel much into the workout, but once I've done my first warm-up squat, I know I've committed myself to finishing the job.

It's a mind game

I know I'm still not out of the woods yet. Each day, I do extra work trying to convince myself to exercise.

But with these three ideas running through my head, it's made it a little easier every day.

Sorry Ang that I haven't written to you in a while. Some of my posts didn't seem quite right to put something at the end and I haven't had much to say as of late.

I like all the posts you've been doing. I hope people are sending you lots of love on Facebook for your hard work.

Tags: well-being

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